Bully the Bullies

I recently read an article about a novel approach that a middle school Principle took to deal with bullying.  After identifying them through student surveys, the Principle sat down with the bullies to talk about their problems at home that might be leading them to abuse others at school.  While I applaud his effort, I think the job is only half done.  What he should have also done is to teach those being bullied how to stand up to bullying, and not be punching bags.  That skill will be highly valuable throughout life, because bullies are inevitable.  In nature, and throughout human history, the strong tends to push around the weak.  The number 1 way to repel bullies is not to be weak, or at least appear that way. 

In the post How to Deal with Bullies at Work, GeekMBA360 took the high road in recommending to continue do the right things, and not let the bullies get under your skin.  It’s a classy approach.  I’d recommend it.  Additionally I suggest if someone gets in your face, you get right back in their face.  By building a tough reputation, you not only dissolve that particular case of bullying, but also deter future ones.  Just make sure you use this tactic only to respond, and not to provoke.  Otherwise, you might become a bully yourself.  

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Overcoming Fear

Fear can be paralyzing.  In the current uncertain economic environment, it’s very easy to be afraid.  The world seems to be ending.  And there appears to be no recovery in sight.  Everyday, more bad news about layoffs and the incredibly shrinking stock portfolio can be depressing.  But what can we really do about it?  Well on a grand national level, perhaps nothing.  But in our own lives, we can do a lot to adjust to the present and plan for the future. 

A very important thing to do is to get into the mental state that we’re in control of our own lives.  That is crucial to prompt us to take actions and improve our situation.  Support system from family and friends are also crucial as we battle against the big bad world.  Also try to think through worse case scenarios, and list what you can do now to prepare for them.  Whether it’s stocking up on canned food and emergency supplies, or buy some gold, by taking those actions, you lessen your fear, and build your confidence.

Winston Churchill once said, “If you’re in Hell, keep going.”  That dry humor is especially needed today.  Be a leader, and project confidence, instead of contribute to negativity.  Overcoming fear is crucial to take the necessary actions and succeed!

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Racial Labels + Political Correctness = Massive Confusion

Political Correctness serves in many case as euphemisms, so not to offend.  Many traditional labels are no longer in fashion because they were used in malice or derision.  But sometimes the new racial labels have weird names that are just confusing!

The basic way to label race is by color.  For example, someone might be White or Black.  But you don’t hear many people use Brown or Yellow, except maybe in HBO Prison Dramas.  Now if we go strictly by color, then it shouldn’t be offensive, right?  Except somewhere along the line, Brown and Yellow got a bit of negative association.  To refer someone as Brown, you might imply that they look dirty, or god forbid, crappy!  Or if you say someone is Yellow, it kind of brings up images of old western movies, where the best way to provoke a fight is accuse someone, “what are ya, yellow?”  Not really sure about how yellow got associated with cowardliness…   But apparently it’s not fashionable to call a person of Asian-decent yellow.

Ok, so label by color isn’t ideal.  So let’s invent some names then, or borrow from science, or linguistic.  For example, Caucasian is a term from anthropology describing white people.  It seems to be common these days, and much less Nazi sounding than Aryan.  But it kind of conjures a cocky Asian.  Or even more nebulas, an Asian dude…   

As for “Latino,” which supposedly describes South Americans…  But that implies that they were from Rome.  Guess since most are Catholics, it’s more of a description of their faith which uses Latin as the default language. 

“Negro” use to be a common term, but being too close to “Nigger,” nobody use it much anymore.  Similarly “Oriental” was part of the daily use.  But too much association to rugs and carpet destroyed its luster.

Well, label by pseudo isn’t perfect either.  Let’s try geography then.  For example, I’m an “Asian American.”  A black person is an “African American.”  “Hispanic American“ came from the word Hispania, a former name for Spain.  I actually think“Spanics American” is more clearer.  But guess it could be confused with “Spanish Americans.”  An American Indian is “Native American.”  Apparently the “Native” label is granted with residency of about 10K+ years…  So looks like Political Correctness has succeed!  Slap a place of origin + American.  And voilà, we’d get the most non-offensive racial label.  It’s a perfect formula! 

Wonder when will “European American” become popular…

Disclaimer:  This post was written in a satirical manner.  If it comes across as offensive, the author sincerely suggests that you get a sense of humor.